What Gay Marriage Means for Millennial Mormons


Today, the most powerful judicial body in the United States of America declined to hear cases from five states concerning the constitutionality of Same-Sex Marriage. Utah was one of those states taking their case to the Supreme Court. In what can be deemed devastating, but not a complete shock, this decision has made it possible for gay marriages to continue in the state of Utah, as it does in many other states. 

Members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints are especially opposed to these measures as it undermines our metaphysical world view that marriage between a man and a woman is ordained of God. This issue of gay marriage and Millennial Mormons is an even trickier issue. The millennial generation has continued to be most open to the ideas surrounding hot topics like gay marriage and the ordination of women, with many of our peers adamantly supporting both causes. This is not the Lord’s will.

With this news, it is important for us to know what Gay Marriage Means For Millennial Mormons.


Our Doctrine Hasn’t Changed

Regardless of the changing laws and legislation, our firm and resolute stance as a church has been, and will continue to remain, in favor of traditional marriage. Our doctrine concerning the organization of the family as it relates to marriage has not changed. Our church’s firm stance in favor of traditional marriage has not changed. We are asked to remember our beliefs and to stand firm in them, even now that we find ourselves in the minority. 

No matter what your friends think, no matter how “cool” it seems to be liberal – God has spoken, and expects you to defend His doctrines in the best ways you can.


The Lord’s Second Great Commandment Remains in Force

The book of Mark records the two great commandments that Christ gave to the people. These laws encompass all other laws and surpass them all in importance. In Mark 12:31 Jesus declares the second great commandment to be that “Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself”.

We are still commanded to love our neighbor – even when they smite us on the cheek with labels like ignorant, bigot, and homophobe. Even when their choices and lifestyle bring us sadness. Even when we see the morality of our society decline with the era of “acceptance”. We must love our brothers and sisters unconditionally.


(Sam): One of my best friends in the world is gay – something I’ve known since I met him, pre-joining the church. Seeing me transition from being completely supportive of gay marriage to wanting to politically stand up for traditional marriage was hard for him, and took its toll on our friendship at one point. I probably wasn’t the most tactful, and he wasn’t the most understanding. As a result, we fell out. But only for about a month. After that, we realized that our friendship was worth too much to throw away because of differences in beliefs. He’s an amazing person, and so is his boyfriend from what I know about him. I may not support gay marriage, but it doesn’t change how I feel about him as a person. Find common ground with everyone in life, and openly show love for all the wonderful things you appreciate about them – it’s how we can make the world better.


“There may be situations where, with serious moral issues involved, we cannot bend on matters of principle. But in such instances we can politely disagree without being disagreeable. We can acknowledge the sincerity of those whose positions we cannot accept. We can speak of principles rather than personalities.” – Elder Dallin H. Oaks


Remember the Lord’s First Great Commandment

It is very easy to get caught up in all the opinions, pain, relief, anger, and sadness and choose to slacken your once firmly held beliefs. I would remind you that before Christ commanded us to love our neighbours, he commanded the following: “And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind, and with all thy strength.” (Mark 12:30) Loving God means obeying his commandments. The Lord has given us commandments, laws, and ordinances which in many cases do not coincide with these new legislative measures and lifestyles. Before we give up and allow ourselves to be blown around by every wind of change, remember we can love, and be tolerant, without giving up our love and God and his commandments.


We Are To Sustain The Law

The 12th article of faith reminds us of our place when the laws of the land don’t defend the laws of God. It states that, “We believe in being subject to kings, presidents, rulers, and magistrates, in obeying, honoring, and sustaining the law.” Even when the law makes us angry. Even when it goes against our every grain of belief. We must honor the laws of the land.
We just heard at conference that some things may be passed as laws that are eternally wrong, but we will have to endure them. May we do so with a trust in God, while trying our hardest to fight for the issues we can still fight for.


What Can Millennial Mormons Do?

Our generation has been called a chosen generation for as long as I can remember. We are being born and reared in the fires of a furnace in the last days and final dispensation of time. When these events happen it can be easy to lose faith. Men’s hearts shall fail them in the last days. It is our job as a valiant and courageous generation to fight back the flood of pornography, obscenities, and moral relativism. Stand for something. Shine your light. The only thing we have control over is our will, and it will have to be enough. Please, do not be disheartened by the fight we must fight, but take courage and press forward with hope and faith.

Above all, keep Jesus Christ – your savior – at the center of everything.


*Disclosure: The author of this post is himself gay and a Latter-day Saint. Questions can be sent to [email protected]

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