Self-confidence is not a fixed human attribute. It is a mindset that takes daily action and effort to keep it alive and improving upon itself.
None of us are perfect. No one has it all together 24/7—but that doesn’t mean we can’t have confidence in ourselves. So whether you’re having a rough day or just want to feel better about yourself, here are six ways you can build your self-confidence one action and day at a time.
1. Dress the part
In a study by researcher and University of Hertfordshire Professor, Karen Pine, what you’re wearing has an affect on how confident you feel. In her study, she had students wear Superman t-shirts. Wearing these shirts made these students feel more confident and actually made them believe they were stronger physically. When you look better, you just feel better. So if you want to feel good, ditch your sweats for a nice dress or slacks and a button up shirt. It doesn’t even have to be anything fancy – as long as you feel like you look good.
2. Mind your posture
Body language always plays a huge part in your self-confidence level. When you think about someone who exudes self-confidence, are they slumped over or slouchy? No. They stand and sit up straight, shoulders back, head up and they have a smile on their face. If you spend most of your day sitting, even a simple change of not being slumped over in your chair will boost your self-confidence. Minding your posture makes you feel better, and people around you will have more confidence in you as well.
3. Surround yourself with positivity
Negativity has no place in a confident person’s life. If you think pessimistic thoughts, replace them with positive ones. If you have negative people or conversations in your life, swap them for positive people and conversations. When you’re trying to find happiness and confidence, develop good habits and surround yourself with people and things that are positive.
4. Go outside your comfort zone
Be willing to challenge yourself. Be willing to take risks. And be willing to accept struggle and failure when you do. People don’t always succeed the first time they try something new. As you continue to push yourself and get out of your comfort zone, you’ll continue to accomplish things you’ve never done before. Your successes in turn will raise your self-confidence.
5. Keep a daily success journal
At the end of every day, write down everything you’ve accomplished, no matter how small or big they are. If you showered, kept the kids alive and safe and survived a toddler tantrum at the store, write all that down. If you passed an exam or completed a huge work project, write it down. Over time your list will grow, and you can go back and reread your success entries and give yourself a sense of self-worth whenever you’re feeling down.
6. Stop comparing yourself to others
You can’t compare yourself to others. There is always going to be someone who has more money, a better job, or more talented in someway than you are. That’s just life. Comparing yourself to others is a quick way to lower self-esteem. So stop comparing yourself to other people. Instead, compare yourself to yourself. Look at where you are now compared to a month or a year ago. Focus on yourself, your results, and how you can continue improving and raising your self-confidence.
Building confidence in yourself doesn’t happen overnight. For some people, it may take a lifetime. No matter how long it takes you, now is the time for you to remember that you are a child of God. Remember, you are special and have abilities that are needed in the world today. Once you recognize that truth, you will start to recognize the amazing things that you can do.